A pregnant woman walks into a bar: You must serve her in NYC

A pregnant woman shows up at a New York City bar and wants to go in and order a drink despite health warnings against consuming alcohol while expecting. Should the tavern serve her?

It's against the law to refuse, under city Human Rights Commission guidelines released Friday. They center on expansive protections for pregnant workers but also say mothers-to-be can't be kept out of bars or denied alcoholic drinks just because they're expecting.

"Judgments and stereotypes about how pregnant individuals should behave, their physical capabilities and what is or is not healthy for a fetus are pervasive in our society and cannot be used as pretext for unlawful discriminatory decisions" in public venues, the new guidelines say.

With that, the city is squarely taking on a touchy subject that stirs conflicted feelings about pregnancy and personal autonomy. It also has sparked at least one complaint: The commission is looking into a case concerning a pregnant woman denied entry to a bar or club, said Lauren Elfant, an agency lawyer. She wouldn't give more detail because the case is open.

Some pregnant women who haven't been refused service say they've felt awkward nonetheless — when a server asks how many glasses to bring with a shared bottle of wine, for example.

It would "come up in conversation as a possibility, a joke: 'Will they serve you, or will they not? … Will they look down on you, or will they not?'" says Carlota Fluxa, a Brooklynite who gave birth Tuesday to her first child.

She occasionally ordered a glass of wine with dinner during her pregnancy, which wouldn't raise eyebrows in her native Spain. No one ever questioned her order, but she felt that "in general, a lot of people are paying attention to whether you're drinking or not drinking."

How to treat pregnant women who use intoxicants has long been debated in the U.S. Some states allow criminal charges against women who use illegal drugs while pregnant or permit detaining expectant mothers who drink heavily. And a pregnant drinker was portrayed as a moral dilemma on the ABC hidden-camera show "What Would You Do?" which featured bar patrons' varied reactions to an actress who appeared to be pregnant unabashedly guzzling tequila.

The U.S. Surgeon General and major medical associations say women should avoid alcohol during pregnancy. An American Academy of Pediatrics reiterated the admonition last October.

New York City requires restaurants to post warnings that drinking alcohol during pregnancy can cause birth defects. But such health decisions are up to the woman, not the bartender, rights commission officials say.

So does Michael Sinensky, who owns a dozen bars and clubs in and around New York City.

"I wouldn't preach to my staff not to serve pregnant women," says Sinensky, a father of three.

But some other bar owners find the issue trickier.

"I sort of believe that the mother should be responsible," says Dan Warren, owner of West 3rd Common, a downtown Manhattan bar.

But if a pregnant woman ordered multiple drinks, "I'd probably be tempted to say something," says the father of two.

The rights commission guidelines, meant to help people interpret a 2013 city law, mostly address pregnant women's rights in the workplace.

Going beyond federal law, New York City requires all but very small employers to accommodate reasonable pregnancy-related requests — such as minor work schedule changes or letting workers eat at their desks — even if other employees can't do the same without a doctor's note saying they need it. Employers can be excepted if they would be unduly financially burdened, among other reasons.

"Far too often, pregnant employees are denied basic accommodations in the workplace, unnecessarily putting their pregnancy and health at risk," Carmelyn Malalis, Human Rights commissioner and chairwoman, said in a statement.